Who are you ?

''Don't look at yourself as a human being having a spiritual experience but as a spiritual being having a human experience.'  Pierre Teilhard De Chardin.

Clients can often get stuck when the identity they perceive to be theirs is changing. Rather than going with the change and allowing a new sense of identity to manifest, people can fight the change in an effort to maintain their old identity and beliefs. Change is a constant and ever present reality, nothing stays the same. Why then do people insist on maintaing an identity that perhaps no longer suits them ? Familiarity, as humans we love the familiar, we love what we know and can have a sense of certainty about. Familiarity is a stronger driver than the instinct to survive. For some the pain of a relationship breakup may be to much, having lost the familiar, the relationship, rather than carry on and create something new they feel the pain is unbearable and take their own lives. Their need for the familiar is greater than their survival instinct. Life is a cycle, just as the season change, so must we allow change to happen and integrate the changes comfortably allowing them to happen, instead of  consciously fighting  to maintain that which was but no longer needs to be.