You have all the resources you need....

You have all the resources you need for change,  if not you can create them. People often say to me things like 
"my problem is I just haven't got any motivation".  They take motivation and make into a thing, a thing that you either have or you haven't. Motivation is not static, it's a process, which involves a series of representations (pictures, internal communication, feelings, smells and even tastes)  .To get motivated you need to think motivating thoughts : make pictures and visualize things that motivate you, see yourself doing the things that you want to and enjoying doing them. Say motivating positive words to yourself about yourself and your abilities to achieve what it is you want to and really feel how how good it will feel to achieve what it is you want to be motivated to do.   


The basic motivation pattern:


Step 1. Imagine enjoying a key achievement.
Imagine that you have achieved one of your greatest dreams in life, 
Imagine yourself fully enjoying it.
Experience the sights, sounds, and feelings of this enjoyment. 


Step 2. Enhance and anchor the state as a pleasure motivation state.
Amplify the compelling and motivational aspects of this experience. 
Do this by adjusting sub-modalities such as brightness and size. 
This is a pleasure motivation state.
Think of a word  that summarises this feeling.
As you do this, make your hand into a fist. 
this is an anchor.


Step 3. Future pace with this state.
Carry these feelings  into imagining yourself taking steps that will actually move you toward your dreams outcome.
Trigger to make your hand into a fist and say your word for the pleasure motivation state to enhance this state.


Step 4. Test 
In the coming days and weeks, notice if you find it easier to take steps toward this or other dreams or desired outcomes. 

World renowned family therapist Virginia Satirs stages of accepting change.

1. Status Quo - The Status Quo in Satirs theory is the normal or accepted knowledge. This knowledge is accepted and comfortable for the individual, and the knowledge is accepted and comfortable for the individual and the individual generally has a vested interest in keeping the state of things the same.

2. Introduction of the Foreign Element - The introduction of the foreign element, is the stage at which a new or foreign piece of knowledge is brought into the individuals attention. The individual is often unsure of the knowledge and may at first reject it in the stage below.

3. Chaos - Chaos is the stage in which the individual tries to the new knowledge that may either expand or contradict the Status quo. During this stage the individual may become confused by the new knowledge and may reject it outright in an effort to protect the status quo.

4. Practicing - Practicing is the first stage if integration. The new knowledge is used in practical application and the individual establishes a familiarity with it. The individual also ties the new knowledge to already accepted information or past experiences.

5. New Status Quo -  The new status quo is the stage when the previously foreign knowledge becomes part of the individuals new reality. The knowledge is accepted and becomes part of what the individual considers normal.

Who are you ?

''Don't look at yourself as a human being having a spiritual experience but as a spiritual being having a human experience.'  Pierre Teilhard De Chardin.

Clients can often get stuck when the identity they perceive to be theirs is changing. Rather than going with the change and allowing a new sense of identity to manifest, people can fight the change in an effort to maintain their old identity and beliefs. Change is a constant and ever present reality, nothing stays the same. Why then do people insist on maintaing an identity that perhaps no longer suits them ? Familiarity, as humans we love the familiar, we love what we know and can have a sense of certainty about. Familiarity is a stronger driver than the instinct to survive. For some the pain of a relationship breakup may be to much, having lost the familiar, the relationship, rather than carry on and create something new they feel the pain is unbearable and take their own lives. Their need for the familiar is greater than their survival instinct. Life is a cycle, just as the season change, so must we allow change to happen and integrate the changes comfortably allowing them to happen, instead of  consciously fighting  to maintain that which was but no longer needs to be.

New journeys down old roads....

I would like to welcome you on the first of many new journeys down some old roads. The journeys are of self discovery, self empowerment and inevitably personal mastery. For many the journeys will be new, although, the path we will travel on to reach our destination is an old one.
The road will have many twist and turns, however the arrival at the destination will be well worth the effort. All you need for the journey is energy, enthusiasm and an open mind!

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step..."